Slapping...okay or not?

[Ammie]

I had a flashback yesterday to a company holiday party where this woman hauled off and slapped her date across the face. There were probably about 1500 people at the party, and possibly about 100 who witnessed this.

I was shocked that someone would do this in public to their date, in front of his colleagues, or in front of her colleagues. We were discussing it at lunch yesterday, and one of my colleagues thought it was okay if the guy had said something really bad, or done something really bad.

If you are female: would you have done it if something mean was said, or something cruel was done to you?

If you are male: has this ever happened to you? Why?

I can't think of why I would want to do this in public, so my answer would be no. Maybe someone will come up with a situation to make me change my mind, though.

[Anonymous]

There's a commercial on right now featuring Howie Long and Terry Hatcher, where at the end, she hauls off and wacks him somewhere on the upper torso.

This idea that men are supposed to put up with this kind of crap is absurd. If someone hits me, I hit them back--HARDER. Regardless of sex, I'll make sure they don't get up.

The answer is, its NEVER ok.

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[Anonymous]

I arranged a slap for an April Fool’s day gag that left a red handprint across my face for a good hour, but otherwise, no, I’ve never been slapped out of anger or spite. I can’t think of a good reason to slap someone on the face.

[Steve White]

Hmmm...

I had been planning to skip the Informal, but now it seems safer to try to catch Ammie near the mistletoe.

Or are only dates slap-free?

[Big Ed]

I was slapped on the face once, in my younger, more cavalier days. Long story short, my hands were somewhere they weren't wanted, and I got what was coming to me.

[Loner]

A slap is acceptable only if followed by a tickle. :wink:
If somebody grabs you inappropriately in public, I consider a punch perfectly acceptable, much less a slap(after all , they assaulted you). Should preferably be accompanied with a loud, "HANDS OFF, PERVERT!"
(But you'd better be VERY sure it was deliberate, and not just a klutz - which this profession is full of - trying to get past you)

But slapping your s.o. because you're having some sort of spat is inappropriate, whether in public or private.

[Anonymous]

I used to have this partner who loved to be slapped during lovemaking. It was very kinky (can you say kinky on here Traci)?

Poop Man - all alone with no date on the holiday informal :sad:

[Pseudolus]

If a guy tries to get too "touchy", then I think it's quite appropriate for the lady to slap him one. Better than a punch, because a slap doesn't have to be physically effective to be terrifically humiliating, and guys hate to be humiliated, especially in (what they perceive to be) romantic matters.

If a guy says something really personally, intentionally offensive to a lady, then it might be OK for her to respond with a slap, but it would have to be very, very bad.

ODB: That's right, women are different from men. Vive le difference!

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[Lee Mellon]

I think it would only be acceptable only in self-defense. A public slap would be a relationship-ender for me. If I need a slap that badly, well then I probably need the road that badly too.

[Ammie]

Before anyone gets the wrong idea, I am at an age where I have found the best way to deal with *unwanted* groping is to look the offender straight in the eye. I lose the usual smile on my face and say "Don't do that, I don't like it". The look says "touch me again and we'll have a scene". I repeat myself once if necessary. It was effective (but a little scary) 3 years ago when I did it.


Oh look...the smile's back again. :smile:

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[Gandalf]

On 2001-12-16 21:50, Ammie wrote:
I lose the usual smile on my face


Forego your smile? That would be worse than being slapped.

[Amateur Linguist]

Vive le difference!

The "le" should be "la". "Différence" is feminine.

If anyone ever slapped me, that would be the last date. But that's obvious.

[Pseudolus]

The "le" should be "la". "Différence" is feminine.


Thanks. I actually Googled to try to pick the correct article. Guess I chose a poor source. In any event, guys ain't gals, gals ain't guys, so arguments about broken symmetry are moot.

[Jed the Humanoid]

Non Non Non Non Non !

Linguist - the best part of being a Grenouille is listening to Anglos getting all confused with feminine and masculine words ! Don't kill my fun ! :smile:

about the topic : I received "des claques/gifles" from 2 different women, both times in public places.

Last time it happened, I slowly finished my cigarette (like a cool guy) while wishing her a happy "rest of her life" and left. She was a nutcase and it was the end of my "I only date psycho chicks" era.

I did not act as cool as this after my first public slap. But situation was different... You can't dump your own mom, and especially not when you're 6, in a shopping mall, and someone just caught stealing candy.

[Castor Troy]

depends how hot she is

[ajstudies]

I have slapped a guy once, in public (English class), when I was in 11th grade, so 16 or so. We were studying Hamlet, but not reading in aloud just then, and he said to me, "Get thee to a nunnery," or whatever that line was.

I can't remember what the teacher's reaction was--shock I think. I don't think she witnessed what was said. But I didn't get in trouble. I don't really even remember being embarrassed about it, even though that was way out of character for me.

Looking back, it's kind of amusing.

But in general, for grown ups, no. I think even having a spat in public is somewhat childish. Although I'm married, so a public spat could be a little more serious, maybe.

[ElDucky]

many times, although all were in jest, one was really hard and involved at least 11 drunken people

[MatthewJames]

Nope. Never been slapped... been very very close though.

[kamek85]

Well... you've all been had.

Seriously, does no one notice 6-year-old post bumping? I'm sure Castor Troy is climaxing as we speak.

[Regular Joe]

Well... you've all been had.

Seriously, does no one notice 6-year-old post bumping?

Why does that matter? People obviously had more to say on the subject. Should they start a new slapping thread?

[kamek85]

Why does that matter? People obviously had more to say on the subject. Should they start a new slapping thread?
I think if there's a non-trivial probability that the OP might be dead, it's probably OK to just start a new thread.

[Loner]

many times, although all were in jest, one was really hard and involved at least 11 drunken people

Frat intitation?
Do you have pictures?