I'm Engaged?!?

[JoJo]

My boyfriend of 22 months moved away in March, so now we’re doing the long distance thing (it’s a 2 hour flight between us). We see each other every other weekend and this past weekend was an off week. He went to Reno with his buddies.
I get a call at 3 am Sunday morning. He’s completely drunk. He says again and again “I love you. I want to spend the rest of my life with you” then he says “Will you marry me?” and something about a ring. I answer “you need to ask me again when you’re in a better condition”. During our conversation, I hear a bouncer yelling at him – my boyfriend ultimately gets kicked out of the nightclub.
We talked a few times on Sunday and he can’t remember any of the 3am call.

I’m not really soliciting any advice -just wanted to share an amusing story. Maybe the real proposal will come this weekend :)

[Darkness Falls]

Congrats ... I think

[carryme]

I'm going to say you're engaged, but are still warm and can't tell.

[Listeria]

Congratulations! I know you will have many years of happiness with this unreliable drunk who blacks out, mixed with a long process of therapy and 12-step-group attendance to cope with your bliss, and your immense pride in rearing children who have inherited his tendency toward alcoholism.

No matter what date you set, I won't be able to attend, but would like you to have this (http://www.justlikehisfather.com/) gift anyway.

[JoJo]

Congratulations! I know you will have many years of happiness with this unreliable drunk who blacks out, mixed with a long process of therapy and 12-step-group attendance to cope with your bliss, and your immense pride in rearing children who have inherited his tendency toward alcoholism.

No matter what date you set, I won't be able to attend, but would like you to have this (http://www.justlikehisfather.com/) gift anyway.

Actually, he hardly ever drinks and that's why he was so drunk...he didn't realize how much alcohol is in a long island iced tea (he didn't grow up or go to college in the US).

[Dumbdumb]

That's way better than how I asked my wife to marry me. My way, I actually had to follow through :).

[Blockhead]

Congratulations! I know you will have many years of happiness with this unreliable drunk who blacks out, mixed with a long process of therapy and 12-step-group attendance to cope with your bliss, and your immense pride in rearing children who have inherited his tendency toward alcoholism.

No matter what date you set, I won't be able to attend, but would like you to have this (http://www.justlikehisfather.com/) gift anyway.

:tup:

[CNN]

Congratulations! I know you will have many years of happiness with this unreliable drunk who blacks out, mixed with a long process of therapy and 12-step-group attendance to cope with your bliss, and your immense pride in rearing children who have inherited his tendency toward alcoholism.

No matter what date you set, I won't be able to attend, but would like you to have this (http://www.justlikehisfather.com/) gift anyway.


:tdown:

one of my good friends "proposed" the same way. They've been happily married for several years now. Sometimes stupid things like that are a lot easier than going through some BS fancy, contrived proposal.

[Lucy]

There's also the non-BS, non-contrived, sober "hey, maybe we should get married" talk.

[CNN]

Obviously that happened later hence the quotes. Doesn't mean that things slip out when you get drunk that aren't sincere.

[Roy Hobbs]

Actually, he hardly ever drinks and that's why he was so drunk...he didn't realize how much alcohol is in a long island iced tea (he didn't grow up or go to college in the US).

Don't marry this guy, who goes to Reno with his buddies and drinks long island iced tea?

Also, who goes to Reno?

[The Nuge]

Don't marry this guy, who goes to Reno with his buddies and drinks long island iced tea?



Someone who didn't grow up or go to college in the US?

[Big Pete]

Also, who goes to Reno?

Sounds like somebody here is asking for a little Stick Time.

[Dr. John Zoidberg]

Yay marriage!!!

[Hugh Jass]

My boyfriend of 22 months moved away in March, so now we’re doing the long distance thing (it’s a 2 hour flight between us). We see each other every other weekend and this past weekend was an off week. He went to Reno with his buddies.
I get a call at 3 am Sunday morning. He’s completely drunk. He says again and again “I love you. I want to spend the rest of my life with you” then he says “Will you marry me?” and something about a ring. I answer “you need to ask me again when you’re in a better condition”. During our conversation, I hear a bouncer yelling at him – my boyfriend ultimately gets kicked out of the nightclub.
We talked a few times on Sunday and he can’t remember any of the 3am call.

I’m not really soliciting any advice -just wanted to share an amusing story. Maybe the real proposal will come this weekend :)


sorry babe, I misdialed; I meant to tell that to my other GF

[Jack]

Actually, he hardly ever drinks and that's why he was so drunk...he didn't realize how much alcohol is in a long island iced tea (he didn't grow up or go to college in the US).

Dump him, he's clearly not a man.

[SamTheEagle]

Dump him, he's clearly not a man.

Or he'll end up lactating while you're standing at the altar.

[DeepPurple]

Or he'll end up lactating while you're standing at the altar.




RN

[Aw Yeah]

you seem happy. dont listen to these goons. do it.

[Ginormous76]

you seem happy. dont listen to these goons. do it.

And by "do it", Aw Yeah means "do other men."

[Yuvraj]

There's also the non-BS, non-contrived, sober "hey, maybe we should get married" talk.

Maybe is such a romantic word. Gals love such wishy washy indecision in a proposal. Such talk does not deserve a yes or no answer, but rather, "Maybe someday (when you make up your mind for sure)"

[Aw Yeah]

And by "do it", Aw Yeah means "do other men."

yeah that was kind of ambiguous, wasnt it

[Yuvraj]

My boyfriend of 22 months moved away in March, so now we’re doing the long distance thing (it’s a 2 hour flight between us).

So assuming he proposes in a non-drunk state (besides Nevada) and you say yes who is going to move or are you going to do the long distance marriage thing.

[Listeria]

Actually, he hardly ever drinks and that's why he was so drunk...he didn't realize how much alcohol is in a long island iced tea (he didn't grow up or go to college in the US).

OK, then, tentative congratulations. Keep him away from silly water, though.

[SamTheEagle]

OK, then, tentative congratulations. Keep him away from silly water, though.

Pretty bold advice coming from a woman who lets her baby smoke.

[GargoyleWaiting]

As far as I can tell, the OP hasn't accepted the proposal.
"Ask me again some other time" is pretty far away from "yes". So, yeah, not engaged until you give the poor boy an answer. Maybe that's why he's acting like it didn't happen, he's too embarrassed after getting shot down.

[Loner]

Actually, he hardly ever drinks and that's why he was so drunk...he didn't realize how much alcohol is in a long island iced tea (he didn't grow up or go to college in the US).

So he needs a green card?

[Listeria]

Pretty bold advice coming from a woman who lets her baby smoke.
That baby is under a lot of stress, alright?

[SamTheEagle]

Probably from bad parenting.

[Woodrow]

As far as I can tell, the OP hasn't accepted the proposal.
"Ask me again some other time" is pretty far away from "yes". So, yeah, not engaged until you give the poor boy an answer.

In other words

Buttercup: I got married. I didn't want to. It all happened so
fast.

Westley: Never happened.

Buttercup: What?

Westley: Never happened.

Buttercup: But it did. I was there. This old man said "man and
wife".

Westley: Did you say "I do"?

Buttercup: Uh, no. We sort of skipped that part.

Westley: Then you're not married. If you didn't say it, you
didn't do it. Wouldn't you agree, Your
Highness?

[Yuvraj]

Probably from bad parenting.

Maybe his mother is white and his father is African. Eventually, the smoke will leave tar on the baby's face and he will appear black and get elected president.

No wonder he doesn't want to quit smoking. It's a smoke screen.

[JoJo]

OK, here are some answers to other’s remarks:
• He only went to Reno because it’s driving distance from where he lives. Vegas is too far for a weekend drive.
• It won’t be a long distance marriage – he’s trying to find a job back in my city (where we met and he also lived the first 20 months of our relationship.) There are no jobs in my actuarial specialty in his area. He moved away because his consulting company told him he needed to take that job or be laid off and only gave him 2 weeks notice of where they were going to place him so he didn’t have time to search for a new job here.
• No green card issues.
• He is the sweetest man I’ve ever met.

[Mick Fan]

OK, here are some answers to other’s remarks:
• He only went to Reno because it’s driving distance from where he lives. Vegas is too far for a weekend drive.
• It won’t be a long distance marriage – he’s trying to find a job back in my city (where we met and he also lived the first 20 months of our relationship.) There are no jobs in my actuarial specialty in his area. He moved away because his consulting company told him he needed to take that job or be laid off and only gave him 2 weeks notice of where they were going to place him so he didn’t have time to search for a new job here.
• No green card issues.
• He is the sweetest man I’ve ever met.

Then it just sounds like a funny story. Once he gets his job situation squared away, then marry him. Your mind appears to be made up.

[Patrick Bauer]

OK, here are some answers to other’s remarks:
• He only went to Reno because it’s driving distance from where he lives. Vegas is too far for a weekend drive.
• It won’t be a long distance marriage – he’s trying to find a job back in my city (where we met and he also lived the first 20 months of our relationship.) There are no jobs in my actuarial specialty in his area. He moved away because his consulting company told him he needed to take that job or be laid off and only gave him 2 weeks notice of where they were going to place him so he didn’t have time to search for a new job here.
• No green card issues.
• He is the sweetest man I’ve ever met.

I think the only thing to do is go out with some girlfriends, have some wine and once your good and tipsy call him back and say yes! If you want to really mess with his head ask him to come over for a booty call. Then hang up.

[Listeria]

Probably from bad parenting.
YOU'RE a bad parenting! :x

[Inconceivable]

I'm Ron Burgundy?

[Swan]

...my boyfriend ultimately gets kicked out of the nightclub...
Maybe, just maybe, as he struggled to return to a standing position after the fall that he surely must have sustained following his ejection by the nightclub bouncer, your boyfriend found himself for an instant carrying his weight on one knee. And maybe, just maybe -- if you are romantically inclined, and his slurred-speech proposal is not the memory you would like to take to your grave -- you can picture the young Casanova, down on one knee, popping the question to you at that instant.

[Yuvraj]

Maybe, just maybe, as he struggled to return to a standing position after the fall that he surely must have sustained following his ejection by the nightclub bouncer, your boyfriend found himself for an instant carrying his weight on one knee. And maybe, just maybe -- if you are romantically inclined, and his slurred-speech proposal is not the memory you would like to take to your grave -- you can picture the young Casanova, down on one knee, popping the question to you at that instant.

Clearly she said no to his first proposal. If and when he proposes again it may be more romantic and she may say yes.

For the record, she is not engaged and there is no need at this point to congratulate her unless you think people who are proposed to and respond negatively should be congratulated.

[yoyo]

I first read the thread title as "I'm Engorged?!?" :shrug:

[Listeria]

So jojo, yoyo, and yuvraj walk into a bar...

[Yuvraj]

So jojo, yoyo, and yuvraj walk into a bar...

jojo got engaged but really said no, yoyo saw a hot bartender and became engorged, yuvarj drank some herbal green tea infused with a flavor that was all the in rage.