My Mom needs advice regarding my brother's wedding

[The Truth]

My Mom needs some advice regarding my brother’s wedding.

My brother is getting married in about a month, but he failed to invite any of my Mom’s friends. She is absolutely crushed. He gave her his list of people who she’d like him to invite, but he didn’t invite ANY of them. These are close friends of hers. Granted, my brother doesn’t know them all that well, but she was looking forward to sharing her son’s wedding with her family and friends, people she really cares about.

She had thought he was going to invite them, or why else would he have asked for a list? She just found out recently that the ungrateful prick didn’t invite any of them, and now the wedding is a little more than a month away and she doesn’t know what to do. She’s paying for a little bit of the wedding, but she can’t really afford to help all that much. Even so, she offered to pay for the extra guests if that’s the only way to have them invited. Granted, it means she’ll be eating dog food for the next month or two, but my brother is considering taking her up on this offer anyway.

So, I need some advice for Mom. She’s crying herself to sleep every night over the situation. Still, she’s happy my brother is getting married and will be gone soon. His crappy guitar playing every night is driving her crazy.

[FormLetter]

Box of tissues. Shut face.

[Louis Rich]

You're brother is the one getting married, she should weep for him.

[General Apathy]

My Mom needs some advice regarding my brother’s wedding.

My brother is getting married in about a month, but he failed to invite any of my Mom’s friends. She is absolutely crushed. He gave her his list of people who she’d like him to invite, but he didn’t invite ANY of them. These are close friends of hers. Granted, my brother doesn’t know them all that well, but she was looking forward to sharing her son’s wedding with her family and friends, people she really cares about.

She had thought he was going to invite them, or why else would he have asked for a list? She just found out recently that the ungrateful prick didn’t invite any of them, and now the wedding is a little more than a month away and she doesn’t know what to do. She’s paying for a little bit of the wedding, but she can’t really afford to help all that much. Even so, she offered to pay for the extra guests if that’s the only way to have them invited. Granted, it means she’ll be eating dog food for the next month or two, but my brother is considering taking her up on this offer anyway.

So, I need some advice for Mom. She’s crying herself to sleep every night over the situation. Still, she’s happy my brother is getting married and will be gone soon. His crappy guitar playing every night is driving her crazy.

Is she paying for the wedding or just offering the extra guests?

[Keep It Real, Yo]

Your mom needs a lesson on the fair

[mlschop]

Starts off slow, but I liked the ending lol

[The Truth]

Is she paying for the wedding or just offering the extra guests?

She's paying what she can, she's not in a position to pay for much. Still, she's offered to pay for the extra guests if that's the only way they can come. She's willing to eat Alpo for a month or so if needed.

[General Apathy]

That's a tough one. My philosphy is that the Bride and Groom have to make a whole bunch of tough decisions and it is pretty much everyone else's job to STFU and try to make the day a great experience for the couple.

In this case since it is the mom and she is presumably helping with stuff as well as paying for some of it, the brother has some duty to invite her friends. It's a special day for the parents too.

Siding with Mom on this one.

Did he give a reason for not inviting them?

[vividox]

This thread makes me feel famous.

[The Drunken Actuary]

I feel like I missed a thread. :(

[ElDucky]

There's nothing wrong with serving the guests a fresh batch of America balls.

[Blue Eyes White Dragon]

I think your mother should just get over it. If she wants to have some friends over for a party at her place and eat alpo then she doesn't need a wedding to do it.

The bridezilla probably made the decision to not invite them, but it's her day, it isn't your mother's party.

If your mother wants to get married then she can invite her friends.

[Joe Blow]

Your mom needs to be medicated.

[Blue Eyes White Dragon]

Your mom needs to be medicated.

I think I saw an infomercial last night about some cds to deal with depression and empowering yourself to feel better about life.

[Blue Eyes White Dragon]

I googled it. Get this for mom:

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[Chief Petosky]

Your mom needs a lesson on the fair:lol:

On the OP, I think it depends. Did they invite his future in-laws' friends, or was the guest list overall very small? If a bunch of friends your future SIL's parents' got invited, then I would be a little upset if I were your mom. If none of these "symmetrical" acquaintances from the bride's side got invited, then maybe there's not much of an issue. If they invited a bunch of people, but they were all direct friends of theirs (i.e., no friends of the family, etc.), then it might bother me a little, but to each his own. I grew up in a family that included friends of the parents (who were "family friends") in the big events of our lives. These (weddings, graduations, etc.) were big events for us (the kids) and big events for our parents. So, we were all very inclusive. We did the planning, etc., but were considerate in developing the invitation lists (this applies to me and all my siblings).

[Dumbdumb]

It's not your brother, it's that bitch he's marrying.

[Mr. Micro]

My Mom needs some advice regarding my brother’s wedding.

My brother is getting married in about a month, but he failed to invite any of my Mom’s friends. She is absolutely crushed. He gave her his list of people who she’d like him to invite, but he didn’t invite ANY of them. These are close friends of hers. Granted, my brother doesn’t know them all that well, but she was looking forward to sharing her son’s wedding with her family and friends, people she really cares about.

She had thought he was going to invite them, or why else would he have asked for a list? She just found out recently that the ungrateful prick didn’t invite any of them, and now the wedding is a little more than a month away and she doesn’t know what to do. She’s paying for a little bit of the wedding, but she can’t really afford to help all that much. Even so, she offered to pay for the extra guests if that’s the only way to have them invited. Granted, it means she’ll be eating dog food for the next month or two, but my brother is considering taking her up on this offer anyway.

So, I need some advice for Mom. She’s crying herself to sleep every night over the situation. Still, she’s happy my brother is getting married and will be gone soon. His crappy guitar playing every night is driving her crazy.


I'm sorry, who's wedding is it? Tell your mom to bring a video camera if she wants to share it with her friends.

[Patrick Bauer]

The hens come home to roost.

[asdfasdf]

It's not your brother, it's that bitch he's marrying.

:iatp: yep, but at the same time there isn't too much your mom can do about it. As noted if this is a small wedding (ie no family friends) then your mom will need to just accept that, if it's a big wedding and her friends are being intentionally excluded then I can see it harbouring some resentment later, but there still isn't too much she can do (beyond offering to pay for them).

[Keep It Real, Yo]

http://www.actuarialoutpost.com/actuarial_discussion_forum/showthread.php?t=196775

[The Truth]

I'm sorry, who's wedding is it?

Vivi's. I thought he covered that in his thread.

[General Apathy]

this was a parody?

damnit

[vividox]

:rofl: