What do you use to get the advantage?

[openminded]

In business, in relationships, in line at a store. What do you use to get the avantage? That is, when you want something how do get someone to give it to you?

The Poll's there with some suggestions. Write ins are welcome.

[openminded]

The question is fairly cynical. But I don't mean to imply that people are that calculated all the time. There are those occasions when you want the advantage and most people have familiar patterns of behavior. Whether the choice is conscious or not, what is it you use most often?


Do you get that advantage from an air of authority?

[openminded]

...

[Han Solo]

I'm usually too nice, so I don't often get the advantage. That's why when the family needs to come out on top, we send in the intimidator, er, my wife. She has no problem going in guns ablaze and getting what she wants.

[ASA_Woman]

Whoa. CW didn't you have a post up there?

Yes, I did. I deleted it. Sorry.

What I had said was that it was an interesting question but that didn't people use different 'techniques' in different situations? For example, a woman's sexual appeal isn't going to get her anywhere with another woman (or would it) unless that other woman is into women. Or maybe it's true that beautiful people have an advantage. I think I've seen or read about studies about this.

I also asked if people were this calculated, as the poll suggests.

Another thing I said was that I sometimes feel that I get the advantage but I wouldn't select any of the above as the reason why.

[Kitten]

I chose the first option only because I'm usually smiling :D , and there is just no reason to be rude to people. If I sense I'm going to have to be assertive, then I will be, or in extreme cases I'll use the bh who is a better intimidator than I.

[Quasi]

I don't know about charming...does a shy smile count? Not that it usually gets me any advantage with anyone other than a grandmotherly type.

The only way I ever get a real advantage is through sneakiness...and then feigned cluelessness if I'm caught :oops:

[Franchise]

Perhaps I'm too polite to get the advantage as often as I want it, but I very rarely "bully" people into seeing thing my way. I try to charm as often as possible (as long as that includes talking nicely to men too).

[Pi Man]

I usually try smiling, but that and just plain old ASKING never hurts... as a matter of fact, it usually works wonders! Works most everywhere in every circumstance. Of course if the answer is no, I usually drop it 'cos I'm just a whimp...

[Dr T Non-Fan]

I'm too polite as well. Mostly because I do not see the rewards of advantage to be worth the effort. And what could I possibly want that would require an extra effort to get? Also, I'm usually defending what I've already got from people trying to take them from me.

[Meshuga]

I chose the first option only because I'm usually smiling :D , and there is just no reason to be rude to people

and those of us who are suckers for a pretty face always give in

[ThE BlacK ScoRpioN]

I chose the first option only because I'm usually smiling :D , and there is just no reason to be rude to people. If I sense I'm going to have to be assertive, then I will be, or in extreme cases I'll use the bh who is a better intimidator than I.

Your #2 is quite convincing too.

btw... about these pictures...

[bertuary]

I voted for smiling too b/c I usually am. Not necessarily to get something, but just cause I'm usually happy. But I agree with whoever said I use different methods in different situations. I know I've played the 'helpless female' on more than one occassion to get a guy to do something I didn't want to do on my own. But then I guess that usually included a charming smile, so I'm covered!

[bertuary]

I chose the first option only because I'm usually smiling :D , and there is just no reason to be rude to people.

A P.S. to my first post... Kitten you are truly a sweetheart!!! :P

[Kitten]

I chose the first option only because I'm usually smiling :D , and there is just no reason to be rude to people.

A P.S. to my first post... Kitten you are truly a sweetheart!!! :P
As are you sweetie! :D

[Pi Man]

[barf] it's getting kind of thick in here... [\barf]

[Kitten]

[barf] it's getting kind of thick in here... [\barf]
Maybe it's all the cream pie? It does get sickening if you eat too much! :wink:

[Moderator1]

I voted for smiling too b/c I usually am.
As I recall (how could I forget?) you were smiling in that picture you tried to use to get a date for the Bikini Beach Bash. But I don't think smiling was the primary technique involved.

[Franchise]

Of course not. Even if she doesn't intentionally use it, she can't just turn off the sex appeal. ;)

[bertuary]

I voted for smiling too b/c I usually am.
As I recall (how could I forget?) you were smiling in that picture you tried to use to get a date for the Bikini Beach Bash. But I don't think smiling was the primary technique involved.

Now you've made me blush! :oops:

[Another day in Paradise]

I voted for smiling because it is my primary weapon....although I'll admit I have been known to assault with sex appeal from time to time.... ;) :D

[urysohn]

I don't know if "charming" smile was quite right. I think "aggressive friendliness" might be a bit closer. Smile, say hello, and act like you're not all ticked off when everybody around you is acting like a complete f'ing jerk. Doesn't always get you the extras but you might ease somebody's stressful day for a minute or two. Works especially well with waitresses (when they look ready to cry, the lines are long, and they just spilled your drink on you), airline personnel, and over-the-phone customer service reps (and yes, they can "hear" your smile).

[Macroman]

I use candy and baked treats. They not only make people feel good, but usually kind of sleepy as well.

[The Drunken Actuary]

Doesn't Frenchman use those same things?

[Ozric Tentacles]

I'm usually too nice, so I don't often get the advantage. That's why when the family needs to come out on top, we send in the intimidator, er, my wife. She has no problem going in guns ablaze and getting what she wants.Ditto.

[Milwaukee Dave]

Doesn't Frenchman use those same things?

I don't really care about stuff like schmoozing people.

[Kitten]

like that wasn't obvious :lol:

[Patrick Bauer]

bump