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Old 10-21-2019, 09:33 AM
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Really? Am I really the only one who cringes at the word "community" -- not just in this context but virtually every time it is used?

Hmm, I guess in that respect I'm just...strange; odd...
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I have never been bothered by the word "community" when used to describe a group of people who have something in common and interact with each other.

But I used to cringe a little when real estate ads used "home" instead of "house" or "apartment" or even the slightly obsolete "dwelling" used in insurance policies. I felt like they were trying to make the place sound warmer. But if it's an empty building up for sale, it's not a home right now, imo. (Unless there is a nest of mice living there, or something.) So maybe you have a similar reaction to "community".
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I suspect I have at least one friend who has used the "n-word" to describe himself. Ain't no way I'm repeating it.
I have no trouble describing myself or other friends as "nerds". What's the big deal?
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Grew up at a time and place where it was synonymous in meaning and intent with various 'f' words, so I dont use it. But I dont care if other people use it in a non-pejorative sense.
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Really? Am I really the only one who cringes at the word "community" -- not just in this context but virtually every time it is used?

Hmm, I guess in that respect I'm just...strange; odd...
cringe? no, but i get what you mean. pretension, condescension overtones sometimes
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Really? Am I really the only one who cringes at the word "community" -- not just in this context but virtually every time it is used?

Hmm, I guess in that respect I'm just...strange; odd...
I feel similar. I also hate the overuse of "_______ Nation".
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Really? Am I really the only one who cringes at the word "community" -- not just in this context but virtually every time it is used?
It doesn't bother me. What word should be used instead?
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I have no trouble describing myself or other friends as "nerds". What's the big deal?
I was watching a documentary on racing across America and Ice-T called some our homies that n-word.
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Queer, like most words are offensive based on use. The macho-bro use as something derogatory is still offensive.

We're Queer, We're Here Get used to hit was a early step in reclamation. That was probably 30 years ago. Queer as folk - 20 years ago, Queer Eye - 15 years ago.

Unlike N-word, Queer at least had a non-homosexual meaning in a prior usage, though in itself rather offensive. The N-word, had attempts at reclamation in rap music and the black community, but that failed, as it was deemed offensive being used outside that community. Now it has gotten so extreme that you can't even say it as a reference comment as If tom said "John said N-word", Tom could not be the one called out. Seems rather extreme.

Words change too fast for me. It seems someone is always wrong not for prejudice, but lack of reference. A 90 year old (black or white) may say colored, with no malice, while a 50 years old would be called out for it.

So, using Queer in a general sense if ok to me. Using it specific to an individual feels odd, especially if I don't know how they feel about the word. There is an older couple I could ask. and like most words, you need to go by someone's intent. If they don't intend to be mean, offense should not be taken. Though could be a teachable moment. If they intend to be mean, doen't matter if the word is acceptable.

and lastly, when I first heard LGBTQ, the Q was questioning - there also used to be an A for Allies (usually if for a group not a person's own sexuality) or now Asexual
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Still wondering wtf "queer" means. I'll accept any and all definitions, and I'll sort it out myself, and everyone will have to live with my decision.
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