My kid has a mood disorder...

[asdfasdf]

Sounds like he's 13 now, that's a little old for physical punishment to still be effective. I don't really have any advice, does he have friends a school or otherwise? If not that could be making him angrier at everything.

[secondlife]

Read a few posts, could not figure out how old the kid is. Spanking may work when they are little, but I wouldn't try when they are over 10 and little big and also if they have a good memory.

I am with very old school, take them out to play ground/back yard and make them as active as you could.

PS: 13 year old getting spanked? I really hope the kid is tiny and you are strong!

[Randolph Medlock]

Originally Posted by secondlife

Read a few posts, could not figure out how old the kid is. Spanking may work when they are little, but I wouldn't try when they are over 10 and little big and also if they have a good memory.

I am with very old school, take them out to play ground/back yard and make them as active as you could.

PS: 13 year old getting spanked? I really hope the kid is tiny and you are strong!

Yes, he's tiny for 13. He weighs about 85 pounds. He was the oldest and by far the smallest kid on this baseball team which was 11 and 12 year olds (he just made the cutoff).

I even told him that 13 is way too old for a spanking but since we acting like a 3 year old I would have to treat him like one.

I rarely spank either of my kids but I thought maybe that would get through to him. I said, if you want to scream I'll give you something to scream about and I held him down and smacked him on the ass about 10 times. Then I went to get my belt but never used it.

People say we will get through this but I don't know if we will. My wife and I haven't been intimate in a month or two. We are constantly under stress over this. The money we are spending on medicine and doctor visits is draining our savings. He's getting more and more violent with his fits of rage. He lies. He's hit my wife before.

Just to give you an idea of what we are dealing with: Last week he asked me for a cupcake for breakfast. I told him no, maybe after lunch. He had a meltdown right there on the kitchen floor, hitting the floor, screaming and carrying on like a nut. Then he said that it's not fair because his brother got a cupcake for breakfast. I asked my wife if that were true, she said no, she told him (the brother) that he could have one after lunch. Insanity.

The sad thing is, when he's not in a rage about some minor perceived issue he's a well mannered, intelligent, hard working kid.

[IMP]

have you considered something like a boarding school for troubled kids? a place where teachers are more apt to dealing with these behaviors and doctors are present to provide appropriate medication?

i am sorry you have to deal with this. i can't even begin to imagine the constant struggle you have on a daily basis.

[asdfasdf]

Hmmm, perhaps we've found Annuitize IRL.

[Annie Howe]

Originally Posted by IMP

have you considered something like a boarding school for troubled kids?

I just wanted to say that I have read horrible stories about those places, with some kids dying. If you go this route, do your research well.

[secondlife]

Originally Posted by Randolph Medlock

People say we will get through this but I don't know if we will. My wife and I haven't been intimate in a month or two. We are constantly under stress over this. The money we are spending on medicine and doctor visits is draining our savings. He's getting more and more violent with his fits of rage. He lies. He's hit my wife before.

You have a really tough time! You two tried seen a psychologist (without him)? Also, if he hit your wife after she hit him, you guys are getting into more trouble!

I don't understand, why would you not let him have a cup cake for breakfast (he is 85 pounds!)? Choose the battles to fight?