Originally Posted by campbell
I have no idea how independent he'll get to be. Right now, he's definitely not functional at his age level (6). He's not fully potty-trained and still eats baby food. He doesn't talk in any normal way. On the other hand, he reads and spells pretty well compared to normal kids his age.
That said, we've met parents who had kids that were as bad as D, if not worse, at his age, but are independently functional as adults. Often the dividing line comes at adolescence. They'll always be "off", but they could become actuaries.
I guess I don't find this so scary given I have several family members who work in the special needs system, so I have an idea what group homes, etc., are like.
See, I would find that scary. I have a friend with an autistic kid, and he's basically taken over her life. He sounds a lot like your kid. He'll repeat phrases, and sometimes they are sort of appropriate. He can use words to ask for some basic things, like a favorite food. He loves playing with the iPad. He seems to like people, which is a big plus. But he's already about 12 and doesn't toilet himself well, or dress himself properly, or bathe himself independantly. It's hard to imagine he could ever live in his own, so it's not like he will grow up and his mom will become free of that responsibility. If he had a single parent, I think the situation would be completely non-viable. He's a sweet kid, but I'm very glad he's not my responsibility.