Originally Posted by mexx
The bolded part certainly ain't true!!
As an aside .. I didn't claim to know something you didn't - in fact, I'm sure you (and lots of other people) are smarter than me. Smarts only gets you so far - if you cannot relate to others and adjust your behaviour to what is appropriate in that particular situation, you will not get very far in any field that involves interaction.
Average is not meant to be derogatory there. For instance, attractiveness has been identified by some to be the averageness of the physical features of your face. This way you remind people of the most amount of good experiences they have had with others. But more directly what I meant was that you come across as "one of the guys". Simply being different is enough to cause people to reject you. This has been proven throughout history, and fundamental differences in how a person thinks are just as capable of causing this reaction as is the color of a person's skin.
What is appropriate is the real issue here. Appropriateness isn't determined by mob rule - it's determined by "smarts".
"Smarts" are good for dealing with real world problems and creating effective plans of action. The money that a person is paid is not given to them because their boss likes them. If that boss had a choice, he'd keep more of the money for himself. The money is given because you are supposed to provide a service as an employee. The money comes from the company providing a good or service to it's customers. To figure out the best way to do this, a company needs smarts above all else.
If you need to solve a real world problem and there is a conflict of interest between putting someone at ease and being able to solve this problem, you choose solving the problem. That is what is appropriate.
I can't change the way I am, and the reason I can't change it is because it is the right way to be. People can see that my instincts are different by gaging my emotional reactions. My instincts are different because it has been proven to me that the way I think is correct.