2 questions from Rulebreaker

[Rulebreaker]

1) If you had been on four dates with a girl you met not on a dating site, and she suddenly showed up on the dating site you're on, would it make you want to go out with her again more, less, or neither?

2) Anybody hanging out near Lexington & 50th tonight? I'm in NYC again.

[glassjaws]

1) Neither. I don't get what her being on a dating site matters.

2) Nope. Sweet home Chicago.

[Agadefe]

Originally Posted by Rulebreaker

1) If you had been on four dates with a girl you met not on a dating site, and she suddenly showed up on the dating site you're on, would it make you want to go out with her again more, less, or neither?

2) Anybody hanging out near Lexington & 50th tonight? I'm in NYC again.

1) More. It means she has the same views on leniency in a relationship as I do. Winner.

2) No

[Samantha]

I'm pretending I'm a guy here:

1) It would depend on what I wanted from the relationship. If I were getting serious about her, then this might make me think she's not that into me and it might make me less likely to want to keep dating her. OTOH, I'm still surfing around the dating site, so maybe I'm not that into her either and am still willing to keep seeing her, but just know that we are both keeping our options open, and so why should that bother me?

2) No

[CNN]

1. I pretty much agree with Sam. Four dates is a good # to start knowing whether or not you want to be serious in my opinion. If she joined the dating site, I would assume she was not interested in me, and I would not feel good about it. But of course, if I'm actively on the dating site, she probably hasn't wowed me completely either and in that case, maybe I wouldn't care so much.

[That Goblin]

Originally Posted by Rulebreaker

1) If you had been on four dates with a girl you met not on a dating site, and she suddenly showed up on the dating site you're on, would it make you want to go out with her again more, less, or neither?

2) Anybody hanging out near Lexington & 50th tonight? I'm in NYC again.

If we're both active on a dating website, then who cares? Clearly we're not gaga for each other if we're still out there looking.

[Sloop John B]

By suddenly show up, do you mean she just created an account? Do they show "join dates" like the good old AO here? I honestly don't know what these sites show so I don't know, but if I saw that she joined the site after we started dating I'd be a bit put off.

However, in the more likely event that the profile already existed (or I can't tell when the profile was created) I don't think I'd care after only four dates.

[ElDucky]

After four (that's pushing it) dates the sex should have already happened and it's time to move on so I don't see a problem with it.

[Kenshiro]

Originally Posted by Rulebreaker

1) If you had been on four dates with a girl you met not on a dating site, and she suddenly showed up on the dating site you're on, would it make you want to go out with her again more, less, or neither?

2) Anybody hanging out near Lexington & 50th tonight? I'm in NYC again.

1. She's either stalking you or doesn't see much relationship potential. Neither is good.

2. Sorry. You need to give me more notice. Wednesday rule and all that.

[Buru Buru]

Originally Posted by ElDucky

After four (that's pushing it) dates the sex should have already happened and it's time to move on so I don't see a problem with it.

what's with people? why does everyone have to be a slut?