Creepy Situation, Maybe

[Agadefe]

So my girlfriend has to work on various engineering research projects for her job. Oftentimes, the equipment/expertise are not available at her work, so she goes to various labs in the area that have the equipment and does stuff there.

Right now she's using the lab of a chemist who works in a university. He's probably around 60, used to teach classes but no longer does. He keeps doing things which might border on being a little weird, none of them individually are too weird, but when combined... Anyway, you be the judge:

-He was helping my girlfriend understand some chemistry stuff until like 10pm one day. His wife called him and he told her he'd be home at 8. Then at 9, his wife called him again, and he didn't pick up.
-He called my girlfriend on a weekend while she was with her family to discuss something that she was doing in the lab. She was busy and distracted, and tried talking to him for a bit but then told him she was busy. He says okay, but then calls her 15 minutes later and tells her in an upset tone that "next time he'll just wait for her to ask him, and won't offer unsolicited help anymore".
-He gave her (and also another one of her coworkers, to make it a bit better) a 20 minute lecture about how you shouldn't get married too early before exploring every option available to you.
-He called her this weekend to talk about his grandkid getting in a fight at school (it seems like he's being bullied) and he wanted to discuss with someone how he's feeling. We were hanging out, and she told him she was kind of busy, and he got really upset at her.

I feel like none of these are that bad, and maybe he just needs a friend (he's kind of a weird guy, not abnormally so, but in the way most people who dedicate their life to science probably are a bit). Still, I think it's a bit weird and my girlfriend is getting a bit creeped out. What do you think?

[SamTheEagle]

Hard to tell definitvely from your post, but sounds a bit like he's a lonely old man with a wife he doesn't want to go home to, and a bit of a crush on your young, pretty (hopefully not assuming too much here) girlfriend. Unless getting calls on the weekend for work related stuff is normal in her field, your girlfriend should start setting some boundaries.

[FormLetter]

He wants to stick his beaker in your girl's bunsen burner.

[FormLetter]

Check his backyard and see if he has dug any shallow graves. Or flower beds. Also check his credit card receipts (taken from his trash obviously) for purchases at places like Bodybag Depot, Lime Supply, Prisoners R Us, etc.

[SamTheEagle]

Probably wants her poop shoot, too.

[FormLetter]

Probably has it already.

[Agadefe]

Originally Posted by SamTheEagle

Hard to tell definitvely from your post, but sounds a bit like he's a lonely old man with a wife he doesn't want to go home to, and a bit of a crush on your young, pretty (hopefully not assuming too much here) girlfriend. Unless getting calls on the weekend for work related stuff is normal in her field, your girlfriend should start setting some boundaries.

Yah, I think this is the case also.

It's not unusual to get work-related calls on the weekends. Though I did tell her that she needs to be more forceful with her boundaries. She feels bad when his feelings get hurt, but her being friendly is also why he feels it's okay to call her and talk about his grandson at 7pm on a Saturday.

Originally Posted by FormLetter

Check his backyard and see if he has dug any shallow graves. Or flower beds. Also check his credit card receipts (taken from his trash obviously) for purchases at places like Bodybag Depot, Lime Supply, Prisoners R Us, etc.

You know as well as I do that Bodybag Depot only takes cash

[tometom]

I find #1, the second call in #2 and #4 creepy. #3 I would expect in any work place.

Between #1 and #3, the guy definitely doesn't like his wife anymore and is just looking for someone to talk to. Your gf must have been nice to him and he's latched on. I'd ignore all phone calls from the guy.

[tommie frazier]

he's a career academic scientist. the level of social adeptness you describe is not shocking. but he definitely is interested in her.

[win diesel]

Originally Posted by FormLetter

Probably has it already.

lol, I'd say 98% likely