to all actuaries with significant others

[Jung Valjung]

How did you maintain such a relationship while having a 45-50 hour workweek AND study time.

Were you all just lucky enough to find someone who understood the whole 10000-exams thing? I just started working 3 months ago and I can already sense the impending collapse of my relationship with my gf.. She recently told me that she can't promise to still be here for me after all this (exams) or something to that effect. I am truly dedicated to the profession and finishing these exams is a goal I want to accomplish. But at the same time I love my gf and I think she may be the one.. It's just that, like most people, we value the actual TIME we spend with our significant others and it is something I have little of at the moment. Time management, I think isnt a factor here. It's the fact that she has to FIT into a schedule.. I guess, I just wanted to know how actuaries dealt with this type of (i hate to say it) obstacle.

Not sure if this is the correct forum for this and I'm certain this has been discussed in the past. My searches have led me nowhere though

[msajincic]

Find yourself a computer scientist! They do understand!

[Heaven's Thunder Hammer]

This book may help apparently:

http://www.amazon.com/Professional-D...0884340&sr=8-3

It's by a guy who studied for a CFA level 3, and had FIVE CHILDREN at the time. So, might be helpful, the reviews look good anyhow.

That and if your GF doesn't understand that you have a high up front investment for a huge salary later in career... Time for a new GF. See if you can find some more time for her, or maybe manage your shedule better? But if she feels "I'm just a point in your schedule" there might be OTHER things going on in the relationship... Or she has really out of whack expectations about what she wants out of a relationship. I would honestly have a discussion about her expectations. This really might be a dealbreaker.

[JohnLocke]

quickies

[Patience]

Originally Posted by Jung Valjung

How did you maintain such a relationship while having a 45-50 hour workweek AND study time.

Were you all just lucky enough to find someone who understood the whole 10000-exams thing? I just started working 3 months ago and I can already sense the impending collapse of my relationship with my gf.. She recently told me that she can't promise to still be here for me after all this (exams) or something to that effect. I am truly dedicated to the profession and finishing these exams is a goal I want to accomplish. But at the same time I love my gf and I think she may be the one.. It's just that, like most people, we value the actual TIME we spend with our significant others and it is something I have little of at the moment. Time management, I think isnt a factor here. It's the fact that she has to FIT into a schedule.. I guess, I just wanted to know how actuaries dealt with this type of (i hate to say it) obstacle.

Not sure if this is the correct forum for this and I'm certain this has been discussed in the past. My searches have led me nowhere though

Chinese Les Mis fan?

anyway, married young and had kids young. Never really had a GF while studying as she was away at college. Had a few months before the first exams and she was very understanding, not just to not bother me, but to be out of my way.

She would take the kids to the park or her parents so I could study. The problem was mine. I hated the time I was missing with the kids. In a new house flet there was so much to do that distracted me.

I really couldn't figure out how to be a good parent and take exams. I also travelled a lot. Heartbreaking when passing the airport my daughter points and shouts "look it's dad's office"

So, yes the SO can be understanding - the rest is your choice of balance

[ReAct]

Originally Posted by Jung Valjung

She recently told me that she can't promise to still be here for me after all this (exams) or something to that effect.

she wants a ring.

Have you shown her the salary survey by exams?

[Wigmeister General]

Originally Posted by Jung Valjung

How did you maintain such a relationship while having a 45-50 hour workweek AND study time.

Were you all just lucky enough to find someone who understood the whole 10000-exams thing? I just started working 3 months ago and I can already sense the impending collapse of my relationship with my gf.. She recently told me that she can't promise to still be here for me after all this (exams) or something to that effect. I am truly dedicated to the profession and finishing these exams is a goal I want to accomplish. But at the same time I love my gf and I think she may be the one.. It's just that, like most people, we value the actual TIME we spend with our significant others and it is something I have little of at the moment. Time management, I think isnt a factor here. It's the fact that she has to FIT into a schedule.. I guess, I just wanted to know how actuaries dealt with this type of (i hate to say it) obstacle.

Not sure if this is the correct forum for this and I'm certain this has been discussed in the past. My searches have led me nowhere though

Welcome to the club.

10 years from now your SO will be just one of the thousands of SO's that are bitter because the studying for exams stole precious time from your relationships.

[The Drunken Actuary]

Originally Posted by Jung Valjung

How did you maintain such a relationship while having a 45-50 hour workweek AND study time.

Were you all just lucky enough to find someone who understood the whole 10000-exams thing? I just started working 3 months ago and I can already sense the impending collapse of my relationship with my gf.. She recently told me that she can't promise to still be here for me after all this (exams) or something to that effect. I am truly dedicated to the profession and finishing these exams is a goal I want to accomplish. But at the same time I love my gf and I think she may be the one.. It's just that, like most people, we value the actual TIME we spend with our significant others and it is something I have little of at the moment. Time management, I think isnt a factor here. It's the fact that she has to FIT into a schedule.. I guess, I just wanted to know how actuaries dealt with this type of (i hate to say it) obstacle.

Not sure if this is the correct forum for this and I'm certain this has been discussed in the past. My searches have led me nowhere though

At the risk of feeding a troll...if she can't give up a little time for you while you study and further your career for the next 5 years, you don't need her. What if you had a job where you had to travel a lot, or work weird hours or long hours or whatever? Would she leave you for that? Really heavey exam season is only a few months a year. Tell her to get real.

Does she deny you time alone for hobbies and hanging out with you friends?

[thrillhouse]

I bribe my wife with a purse if she lets me study & I end up passing. That & a mandatory weekly date night until about a month before the test seems to work pretty well.

[imdave0182]

Manage your time better. How many hours do you study a week typically? Either your girl is the smothering type unlike mine or you don't manage your time well.