Talking Down to an SO

[Agadefe]

Does it bother you guys when you see couples do it? It seems so depressing to me to be in such a relationship, from either side of it.

Every time one of my friend's gfs says something, he always has this like "haha honey, you're so cute having opinions" vibe about how he responds to her. Like he is talking to a 10yo. Why would he want to be with someone he clearly seems to disrespect?

This doesn't bother me as much as another friend I have whose gf talks down to him in a similar fashion. Except it's more of like a snapping at him to do stuff like he's her lackey. "Are you going to go get the sleeping bag, or do I have to do it". It doesn't even seem like they are fighting, more like it's just their natural way of interacting with each other.

[Anthemyst]

Like nails on a chalkboard, my friend. I can't help but wonder how much a person like that can possibly respect themselves, seems like a really pathetic way to self-validate.

[tgadd]

How else are you supposed to keep your woman in order and make sure she knows her place?

[ao fan]

Originally Posted by Anthemyst

Like nails on a chalkboard, my friend. I can't help but wonder how much a person like that can possibly respect themselves, seems like a really pathetic way to self-validate.

i don't think it's a way to self validate. i think it's someone who is settling for an s.o. who they aren't compatible with and shows annoyance instead of breaking up like they should.

[Aeitra]

Its depressing, do not like to be in, near, or around anything like that.

[Androzani Major]

Don't you know? It's perfectly fine if a woman does it to her man; jailable, shunnable offense otherwise.

[Anthemyst]

Originally Posted by ao fan

i don't think it's a way to self validate. i think it's someone who is settling for an s.o. who they aren't compatible with and shows annoyance instead of breaking up like they should.

I've seen it both ways. I was thinking more of the first situation he described, where they guy isn't annoyed at all but still treats his SO like a child. My cousin's husband does this, it is clearly an ego thing. And it is especially annoying in their case because while my cousin was brought up very sheltered and is thus naive about some things, she's probably still plenty smarter than her husband.

[redprinceton]

Yeah, this bothers me.

It is really annoying haning out with two people who don't get along, especially if they are in a relationship. I don't think it is too much to ask that two people be good friends before they start dating. Or at the very least, if they aren't good friends, they shouldn't hang out together in public or among other friends.

[ao fan]

I feel more sorry for their kids than their friends.

[erosewater]

Let the back of your hand do the talking imo