Getting out of Valentine's Day

[The Waiting Hurts]

How do you get out of "celebrating" it?

[_BullDog_]

You must be single.... Kill the SO.

[Patriots' Fan]

Originally Posted by The Waiting Hurts

How do you get out of "celebrating" it?

Not trying to.

[The Waiting Hurts]

Originally Posted by _BullDog_

You must be single.... Kill the SO.

By single you mean not hitched? Yes.

I’ve expressed many times to a young man that I’m seeing that I don’t do valentine’s day, it seems pretty pointless to me. He’s asked me numerous times what I want to do, if there’s anything special that I want to do or would like. On every occasion, I’ve politely said that “I don’t do valentine’s day”. I’m guessing that he thinks I’m saying that but really want to be surprised...as he has mentioned many times "that's what you women say....then you get upset if ..." But I'm being honest.

He just called me and asked what time I’m planning on leaving the office tomorrow. I’m guessing he’s planning something. But, quite frankly, I have to go to the gym, wash clothes, and study. I don’t like going out on v-day, it’s too crowded and too expensive. I’m not 16, so I don’t want teddy bears or those big heart boxes of chocolates. I've never much understood the point of valentine's day. Besides I think he feels obligated to do something not he wants to do something. We have a good time together but I'm just not into it. I dont' want to hurt his feelings but at the same time I wouldn't enjoy myself if I were forced to do something. (That sounds selfish right?)

[ahow]

Find a woman who can't stand it either...

[_BullDog_]

Originally Posted by The Waiting Hurts

By single you mean not hitched? Yes.

I’ve expressed many times to a young man that I’m seeing that I don’t do valentine’s day, it seems pretty pointless to me. He’s asked me numerous times what I want to do, if there’s anything special that I want to do or would like. On every occasion, I’ve politely said that “I don’t do valentine’s day”. I’m guessing that he thinks I’m saying that but really want to be surprised...as he has mentioned many times "that's what you women say....then you get upset if ..." But I'm being honest.

He just called me and asked what time I’m planning on leaving the office tomorrow. I’m guessing he’s planning something. But, quite frankly, I have to go to the gym, wash clothes, and study. I don’t like going out on v-day, it’s too crowded and too expensive. I’m not 16, so I don’t want teddy bears or those big heart boxes of chocolates. I've never much understood the point of valentine's day. Besides I think he feels obligated to do something not he wants to do something. We have a good time together but I'm just not into it. I dont' want to hurt his feelings but at the same time I wouldn't enjoy myself if I were forced to do something. (That sounds selfish right?)

Easy solution, have him wash your clothes while you study.

Originally Posted by The Waiting Hurts

By single you mean not hitched? Yes.

I’ve expressed many times to a young man that I’m seeing that I don’t do valentine’s day, it seems pretty pointless to me. He’s asked me numerous times what I want to do, if there’s anything special that I want to do or would like. On every occasion, I’ve politely said that “I don’t do valentine’s day”. I’m guessing that he thinks I’m saying that but really want to be surprised...as he has mentioned many times "that's what you women say....then you get upset if ..." But I'm being honest.

He just called me and asked what time I’m planning on leaving the office tomorrow. I’m guessing he’s planning something. But, quite frankly, I have to go to the gym, wash clothes, and study. I don’t like going out on v-day, it’s too crowded and too expensive. I’m not 16, so I don’t want teddy bears or those big heart boxes of chocolates. I've never much understood the point of valentine's day. Besides I think he feels obligated to do something not he wants to do something. We have a good time together but I'm just not into it. I dont' want to hurt his feelings but at the same time I wouldn't enjoy myself if I were forced to do something. (That sounds selfish right?)

I think you should chill out a bit and just enjoy the fact that he's trying be sweet to you.

If hanging out with him is really too much for tomorrow night, I would let him know today that you're not going to appreciate any suprises that will suck up your time, but you'd be available to spend time with him an another day.

If he completely ignores your wishes, keep in mind that he may think you're trying to pull reverse psychology on him...that is, that you don't REALLY think V-Day is a waste, you're just testing him. It's possible a previous GF screwed him up with this kind of behaviour. Really, I can't blame a man who thinks I'm saying one thing and mean another, because often that's what women do.

If he goes through with giant suprise hassle tomorrow night, give him this one pass...something like "I really appreciate it, but in the future, when I say something I mean it."

Then, the next time he disregards your expressed wishes, it's safe to assume that he's just not listening to you, or doesn't care what you think. Time to dump him.

[The Waiting Hurts]

Originally Posted by _BullDog_

Easy solution, have him wash your clothes while you study.

You know if he offered this as a gift, I'd appreciate it so much more than flowers and dinner. That's a great suggestions. Thanks.

[The Waiting Hurts]

Originally Posted by Titania

I think you should chill out a bit and just enjoy the fact that he's trying be sweet to you.

I know, I'm trying. This is usually what I consider a deal-breaker, but he's nice and means well.

[Foamy]

Originally Posted by ahow

Find a woman who can't stand it either...

Do not fall for this trick. She would much rather chew you out for selling out to Hallmark than try to pretend she doesn't care when she's the only woman at work without flowers.